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Message To Our Daughters

I've been absent lately due to life and really the lack of anything that struck a chord with me enough to blog about.  Today though I read an article about Jada Pinkett Smith's defense of her daughter, Willow's, hair cuts and styles. I'm sure many of you are saying the same thing I normally would: "who cares." What caught my attention orginally to the article was Willow's name. My daughter has her on her girl power playlist and likes her music. I do too becuse it generally sends postivie self esteem messages. From reading the article I can now see where Willow gets the inspiration for those messages, from her mom.

This is what Jada Pinkett Smith had to say:


This subject is old but I have never answered it in its entirety. And even with this post it will remain incomplete.

The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women,girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be. More to come. Another day.


WOW! This is an excellent response. I too hope to instill this in my daughter. How many girls and women grow up with the belief that they have to fit some image others would thrust upon them? I tell my daughter that her true beauty and power come from her beinging true to herself. When a woman is confidant in her self others will see it too. I hope that being given this advice and power over her own self help her in the future when major life choices can be affected by how she sees herself.

Reread the quote from above and take some time to truely think about it.  If you are a parent or even have influence in a child's life, think about what messages you are sending them. As hard as it can be remember Mrs. Pinkett Smith's advice, "... little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires."



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